Who do you report to – Boss or Leader ?

Successful business has one thing in constant across any organisation – The Boss. He is the most important and critical success factor for any organisation.  A class human being, a good teacher, an effective listener and a team player; and is always there to support you, no matter what. He always gives you the opportunity to move forward and is never envious of your success.

One the other hand, there is another kind, who makes you slog, is after you all the time, shouts at you. He holds you responsible for all his failures. He does not train you, teach you, simple wants you to things that he himself is unable or does not know how to do. He never gives you an opportunity to prove yourself and never lets you perform.

Now, if you have the latter as you’re Boss, it very important for you to have some understanding that will give you a little clarity. Psychologically, a person who himself is not high on capabilities, will always try to hold back people who are smarter than him. As he does not have any other way to hold you back, he uses his powers to dictate you, dominate you. Trust me on this, the day you back fire, you yourself would see a change in his behavior. He still will try to enforce him on you; however, if you consistently keep on discussing with him on the right point, you will see him taking a back foot. Never let an opportunity go, whenever you get an opportunity to meet and present to the management, speak fearlessly and all things will be in your favor.

If you have a super brilliant Boss he will drive you to achieve, it is a blessing in disguise. No matter what pressure he puts on you, he will bring the best out of you. He will keep on pushing you to do new things, things that you have not done before. No matter how difficult it is for you, if you do it, at the end you will have a skill added to you. Understand this; all through the working career you only get paid higher for your skills, the more skills you have the higher is your payout.

A little thought on leaders

Boss and leaders are two different things. While all Bosses try to prove that they are leaders, leaders don’t need to prove anything at all. Less of words, and more of action. If he finds that that someone in his team is not doing well, he will train him and uplift him. If he finds a person who is doing well, he will give him more and more opportunities to grow.

A good leader is a good follower. Anybody who cannot follow cannot lead.  In one of my learning that I acquired, was example of Sachin Tendulkar (one of the biggest sportsmen in the field of Cricket). Sachin being a top class cricketer, played under a captain who was more than 10 years younger to him. His performance never came down, he excelled. Leaders never bring their performance down, if they see that there someone in their team who can do a job better than him, he will not mind following him, irrespective of what age group he is.

Bosses bring numbers/sales, leaders build team and the team builds businesses. bosses in their ego of getting the numbers ransack all the people under him. He is least bothered with what is happening with someone, he just needs the number irrespective of anything. He will not give leaves, make people crib, and create an environment of high pressure. He will achieve the number, but in the process destroy the team. His people will never be consistent, high amount on attrition. Finally, the numbers don’t happen. If you don’t have the team how will you ever get the numbers? And when a boss, quits the business collapses. He has never builds a team that can take the business forward.

Leaders on the other hand, build a team. They develop people and understand them well. If they find people who are not doing well they will sit with them do the talking and try to get to the problem that is a hindrance to the growth. He understands that if a person is not happy in his personal life out of office, he can never perform. He never puts pressure on anyone, he just make people responsible. Therefore people stick around and along with them he too succeeds. In future, when he leaves the company to switch over to the next, the team that he leaves behind is capable enough to ensure that business continues.

While in the corporate world we find both leaders and bosses. Bosses are there in abundance, and very few leaders. If we find a leader who is our boss, we will develop and learn a lot. And when we get the change to take charge of a group; we must be leaders to team. However there is a thin line that divides a boss and a leader. It is for you to choose, on whose side you have to be.

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Vijay Sokhi

FMCG – Foods Professional

Business Consulting, Change Management, Sales Management and Motivation

PLEASE TAKE ME HOME

Days, months, years have elapsed. From the time life has started, to this place where life has bought all of us, we have come a long-long way. Most of us had planned to come out and so we are out. Others are those who from the time have known things, always, have desired stay out of India/home come what may. Some of us have come out by-chance; and most of us due to 3 reasons Education, Career and Marriage. No matter how far we have reached today in our lives, there is always an emotion that flows in our heart when we think of the place from where all started. Trust, Heart has no control over the mind when we think of how it all started. Let us travel take back to the place from everything begin – HOME.

 

This is a work of fiction and is dedicated to all my friends, loved ones who have come so far from their home that coming back to home is a task that can be fulfilled at a high cost. Imagine you staying in Canada, wanting to come home to India. Search for freedom has put us into a lot of bondages. Taking leave from the place I work and if I get one it is limited; cost involved in come home and so on. But no matter what, we all do find the time to get back home.

 

Our first step out of home: From the time we are born, the coziest place that we all lived is in the lap of our mom. That was the world to all of us. Then as we grow, we move to the first place out of our home – School. Those first days out of our home were so difficult. The new faces that we saw horrified us. We all wanted to go back. And when the school is over, we used to rush and jump into our loved ones. The warmth of the love, is still felt, when we close our eyes. It felt so secured. Whether they are around us or not they will always pray and protect us.

 

I love my papa. I am a papa’s girl. Words are inadequate to explain the chemistry between a dad and a daughter. There are only a few people who can experience this love. The first love of any women in this world is his father. Likewise, a son is always most attached to his mother. For a father the love of the daughter is the most unconditional love. Everyone would say her she can’t but it is the father who always believes in her daughter and if she has made it big it is because of his papa. There have been times when in our childhood we have been very naughty. Some time our papa did scold us. We would be so hurt that until and unless he does not come and gives us love nothing in the world could comfort us. In good or bad times, long after you cannot see him around, just close your eyes and you could see him telling you ‘ Come on beta you can do it.’ He will never give up on you.

 

That home where we stayed, had no great convenience, but the comfort that it gave us is something that we cannot get anywhere in the world. It was small, just a fan, wooden bed and erratic electric supplies, but we slept in peace. During hot seasons, it was the silent breeze that made us lull in the sleep. Before going to sleep those “Jugnu”, used to illuminate the surrounding.  Cold season was so freezing and we use to have ‘angithi’ burning to get the warmth. We stayed together, Mom, Dad, Grandpa, Grand Ma, Uncle, Aunty; and no matter how much their views differed, it was the seniors in the family who use to bring all together. Today, as nuclear families we are so far, that our children are devoid of the love of the entire family.

 

Those old friend, who we made unconditionally, without knowing their cast-creed, income level, status still remain with us. All the new friends come and go, but the old ones remain and do feel for you. We may not have seen them for years but when we go back to the native, the love and care they show is something that we will never find anywhere. New friend, announces a party, you will find friends coming around you like bee in beehives. When you are in trouble, they find it difficult to find time for you.

 

The first crush, that boy you followed you home. That nervous moment when you first felt him around. That birthday when he said you that he wants to kiss you and this will be his birthday gift. That emotional conflict where, one, you wanted to feel it and; second, you think it’s incorrect and then you finally let go. That break-up that simply broke you down, and you see darkness all around. And finally the man in your life, he come and hold your hand for your life with love so much, you always could imagine.

 

The people that you have lost in the way, those who will not come back, and have never aged after you saw them last, brings tears to eyes. Loss is a part of life. That tear we shed for the people who left us, in the darkness of night and the pain that pierces the heart is uncomprehending. These are losses that cannot be replaced and when we are back and go to the place from where it all started, we still feel their presence.

 

There are time when you think, enough of all, I will leave everything and go back. You pack your bags, take your belongings, and open the door, and you hear a voice from behind – ‘’ Papa, I need you besides me, I cannot sleep without you,’’, you turn back and look at your child. You lift her in your arms and return. You life is no more yours, you now live for them. As far as Karma goes, it repeats itself- ‘’ You had your life and you have your past past, now, you will create memories for these little one’s, and long after you are gone, they will always cherish you in their memories, and live in the world on the foundation and principles that you have laid for him.