Don’t push someone to the wall. Beware, may be he is building his anger!!

Many a times we encounter people who we take granted. We know that what we are doing to the other person is incorrect and this person keeps quite. You keep on pushing them, because you are noticing that he is keeping quite. You keep on playing around and the other person is watching and bearing. You play tricks with him and he still keeps quite. You have a feeling of victory on him and ensure that you keep him engaged in the loop and keep him under you. He keeps quite all the time.

There are two types of people who keep quite:

  1. Type 1: Who cannot do anything? There are those kinds that stay calm and have no ability to take actions. No matter what you do, he is meek and follows your direction. Once you put him under you, he remains under you throughout his life
  2. Type 2 – The most dangerous one. This person is the one who may be keeping quiet for many reasons – he regards you a lot, he want to protect the relationship, he knows he can trust you. He also keeps quite and takes the beating. He has the ability to take beating to the extent that he wants you to take him to the breaking point. For example if his breaking point is 10, he will push it to 15 or to 20, but after 20 he could be the most lethal person in your life. All through this time he just builds up on his anger and once you push him to the wall where he realizes
    • You have been playing around with him
    • Breaking his trust
    • Fooling around

Then God save you. In fact these people when they reach that breaking point, even God cannot save any one. The next is next is destruction.

I am an Indian and belong to the rich heritage of India and take lot of learning form you epics. One such epic was the battle of Mahabharata. An important character in the Mahabharata was Shri Krishna. He did all that he could to avert the war. The Kauravas had put the Pandavas to a situation where they had lost everything in the game of dice, including their property and wife. They were sent to exile for 13 years and there after 1 year of incognito. After their return Shri Krishna acted as a peace maker and told the eldest of the brother of Kauravas, Duryodhan, to give the lands to the Pandavas that was rightfully theirs. Duryodhan said no. The eldest of the Pandavas, Yudhistir, request to give only 5 villages to the Pandavas and they would be satisfied. Duryodhan replied, he will not give land even to the tip of the needle point. This finally led to the bloodiest war in the Indian epic history. The Pandavas were pushed and lost everything, went to exile and were quite, peacefully would have settled for five villages, but Kauravas refused and the result was the end of the Kauravas. In the war there were losses for both the Kauravas and the Pandavas, but when you have decided that relation is not being honored by someone you value more, than you want to destroy the other person, even if you get destroyed in the process.

Therefore, we must not play around with people who behave properly even if they are subdued. You never know, maybe they are building their anger. If you push them too hard reaction is imminent.

Personally speaking, you need to build up on your anger. This is needed for all those who think that you are a looser and cannot take action. You must not bow down to injustice at all, but take it on you till the time you can and then explode. It is because we are bearing this injustice, we empower people to take advantage on us and also others. Be it your job, your personal life, the society or anywhere else, you must speak out when needed.  Someone has to bring the change and it has to be you.

Fight Back!! Be the Change

 

LIVE THE MOMENT !!

Each and every one of us has their priority. We are so involved with them that we work day in, day out to achieve what we want. We must do it, and if we don’t we will never achieve what we have desired to do. Some of us are all day busy writing blog, some are busy doing their monotonous jobs, some are busy developing software, some are busy in sales, someone is busy making a building. Our life cycle as well goes in a similar fashion, as students busy studying, as a professional busy earning, as old people busy with health and doctors. Trust, some are busy sleeping, most are busy worrying. Frankly speaking that the world has been crafted in a way, it keeps us busy.

 

Life is not necessarily made up of all these complicated things. Instead, it is that moment in your life, those 30 minutes, that one day, which makes the difference. If fell very sad when people don’t understand those situation that the life creates, that went utilized.

Say, you have been trying to say talk to someone, who was at one point of time very close to you but due to some misunderstanding you are not in talking terms. You are sitting in café, and all of a sudden that person arrives. You look eye to eye, and then get busy in your work. You are aware that the person is sitting two tables behind you and you are willing to approach; and then your mind starts cooking; what if he does not respond, what if he behaves rudely. Understand, you did not have any plans of meeting the person, who never knew that he would come, at that time at that café, but he is there; these moment are creating of the nature. Stop thinking. Just get up and site and talk.  If you have to say sorry, say it. If you want to speak out your mind, speak it out. But make the move. Say, you have a friend, you had an argument with her and you knew that it was not your mistake but a misunderstanding, and you always wanted to talk to her. Every-time, you used to go to college, you always thought that you would talk to her and patch up, but somehow it always got pushed to next day. Time passed and summer vacation was announced. All during the vacation, you prepared that after the vacation; you would meet her and talk it out. The school resumed. She was not there for the first day and then a week passed. On the 10th day of the school, you came to know that she passed away and you never got a chance of saying sorry to her. This is the situation with most of us; we wait for the time but when the time is there we don’t act. Tell me is there any guarantee of life.  What you have to do, you have to do now. It is this moment that is right, who knows what will happen tomorrow.

Say, you know this guy very well and some where you have feeling for her, but no commitments. You are good friends. There is college picnic and there are about 30 people in a group. You reach the picnic spot; somehow a situation is created, where you both are along and you feel like kissing her. Do it. Don’t think. If you start thinking, then it’s gone.

Say you are driving to home, that day it was raining heavily. I was one of those days, where you could have come home early. Just minutes before you reach home, you witness an accident. You choose to help the person. You help him, take him to the hospital, the doctor attends the patient and in the mean time you call his relatives. They all come. As you wait with their family members outside, the doctor come and tells you, it is because you bought him on time, he survived else he would have died. Feel it. It was the decision at that moment on the road that saved someone’s life.

  • You want to laugh today, laugh. Don’t think you are in a board meeting or in a classroom.
  • You want to say sorry to some say it. Don’t think, by saying sorry you will lower your value. Someone said, ‘’saying sorry does not make you small, it only exhibits that you value the other person more than you’’
  • You want to cry, then cry. If it pains, let I pain.
  • You want to help, help. Don’t think what will happen next.
  • You want to go out with the family, leave today. May be you don’t get time tomorrow
  • You want to start you business, start it.
  • You want to get wet in the rain, go out. Don’t think what if I get cold. If you get cold, you can take care of it, if you don’t go out in the rain, then you may have to wait for another year of the rains to return.

All these moments are creating of God. We are very small to understand it. So when these moments come, we should not think much, what you need is a good intention and a pure heart, and never hurt anyone’s feeling.

Don’t wait; do it now, may be tomorrow, time and situation may not permit you to do what you want to do now.

Live the moment !!

That Cup of Tea !!

It was raining heavily that day. I was looking at the rains and then my phone rang. I picked up my phone.
Hi Rahul – How are you?
I replied – Fine and added ‘Who is this?
She said – Parul
Parul is one of the closest friend of Minisha
Oh Parul – ‘How are you?
‘Good. Minisha has sent a message; she wants to meet you now’
I had proposed her yesterday and I knew that today I would get answer to my question
I replied –   Where?
Near the Church across the river
I said – 30 min
Done!!
I was elated and the rain got heavier.  I took my bike key and rushed to start it. Due to rains it had conked off. It tired hard but it did not start. I felt that before my life could start, it stopped. This was not an opportunity that I wanted to let go.
The saviour was my by-cycle. Without thinking much, I put my phone inside a plastic pouch, and took off forgetting to wear the rain coat. That day I felt the rains were warm. The cold rain drops felt on my body that was perspiring and turned warm. I was racing. To get acceleration, I lowered my head. Finally, I reached 5 minutes behind schedule.
She was sitting on her bike, near the Church, with her raincoat on. I was thinking, how could  I take my by-cycle to her. So I parked in near and started running. By time I reached her I was 10 minutes late.
As I looked into her eyes, everything slowed down. I could see each drops of rain, crystal clear.
Wet hairs, dreamy eyes and her wet body made me go crazy, but I controlled my emotions and approached her.
‘Hi’
She replied ‘Hi’, ‘ So’
I replied – You look great
Deep down, I was thinking she was looking god damn sexy!!
Minisha – I get proposals every week. I have become so experienced that when a person comes and proposes me, I can look into his eyes and feel, what his intentions are
Rahul – What do you think about me?
Boys as usual, always in a hurry.
Minisha-  I don’t know, but I would like to give us a chance. So I had given you a call.
Rahul – So it’s a yes!
Minisha – It’s neither a yes nor a no.
Rahul –  Then what?? (Getting impatient)
Minisha – I want to spend some time with you and then come to a conclusion
Rahul (Understanding): That’s all right.
Minisha – Where is your bike..
Rahul – It’s a different story, leave it
Minisha –  I have to leave now, I somehow managed to come here with the help of Parul. If I get late, I will not get this chance again.
Rahul – When do we meet next?
Minisha – In two days time, I will call you
Rahul – Will be waiting to hear from you.
Minisha –  See you
Rahul – See you
She stated her bike and left. It was still raining. She moved a little ahead and then turned back. How will you go back?
Rahul – I will manage
Minisha – Come let me give you a ride for some distance.
Rahul – Oh Yes
He sat behind the bike and they moved.
Rain was heavy, so she drove slowly. Rahul wanted to touch her but kept his hand behind.
They moved on. After going a distance, Rahul asked her to stop. It was raining so the visibility was less. Minisha was not very familiar with the location. Rahul asked Minisha to park the vehicle. Then he took Minisha by her hand and move in to a shop.
He said to the shop owner to make two cups of masala tea.
In the meantime both of them were standing a looking at the rain.
The waiter came
‘Sir your tea is ready’
With this cup of tea, my love story started.

…to be continued….

PLEASE TAKE ME HOME

Days, months, years have elapsed. From the time life has started, to this place where life has bought all of us, we have come a long-long way. Most of us had planned to come out and so we are out. Others are those who from the time have known things, always, have desired stay out of India/home come what may. Some of us have come out by-chance; and most of us due to 3 reasons Education, Career and Marriage. No matter how far we have reached today in our lives, there is always an emotion that flows in our heart when we think of the place from where all started. Trust, Heart has no control over the mind when we think of how it all started. Let us travel take back to the place from everything begin – HOME.

 

This is a work of fiction and is dedicated to all my friends, loved ones who have come so far from their home that coming back to home is a task that can be fulfilled at a high cost. Imagine you staying in Canada, wanting to come home to India. Search for freedom has put us into a lot of bondages. Taking leave from the place I work and if I get one it is limited; cost involved in come home and so on. But no matter what, we all do find the time to get back home.

 

Our first step out of home: From the time we are born, the coziest place that we all lived is in the lap of our mom. That was the world to all of us. Then as we grow, we move to the first place out of our home – School. Those first days out of our home were so difficult. The new faces that we saw horrified us. We all wanted to go back. And when the school is over, we used to rush and jump into our loved ones. The warmth of the love, is still felt, when we close our eyes. It felt so secured. Whether they are around us or not they will always pray and protect us.

 

I love my papa. I am a papa’s girl. Words are inadequate to explain the chemistry between a dad and a daughter. There are only a few people who can experience this love. The first love of any women in this world is his father. Likewise, a son is always most attached to his mother. For a father the love of the daughter is the most unconditional love. Everyone would say her she can’t but it is the father who always believes in her daughter and if she has made it big it is because of his papa. There have been times when in our childhood we have been very naughty. Some time our papa did scold us. We would be so hurt that until and unless he does not come and gives us love nothing in the world could comfort us. In good or bad times, long after you cannot see him around, just close your eyes and you could see him telling you ‘ Come on beta you can do it.’ He will never give up on you.

 

That home where we stayed, had no great convenience, but the comfort that it gave us is something that we cannot get anywhere in the world. It was small, just a fan, wooden bed and erratic electric supplies, but we slept in peace. During hot seasons, it was the silent breeze that made us lull in the sleep. Before going to sleep those “Jugnu”, used to illuminate the surrounding.  Cold season was so freezing and we use to have ‘angithi’ burning to get the warmth. We stayed together, Mom, Dad, Grandpa, Grand Ma, Uncle, Aunty; and no matter how much their views differed, it was the seniors in the family who use to bring all together. Today, as nuclear families we are so far, that our children are devoid of the love of the entire family.

 

Those old friend, who we made unconditionally, without knowing their cast-creed, income level, status still remain with us. All the new friends come and go, but the old ones remain and do feel for you. We may not have seen them for years but when we go back to the native, the love and care they show is something that we will never find anywhere. New friend, announces a party, you will find friends coming around you like bee in beehives. When you are in trouble, they find it difficult to find time for you.

 

The first crush, that boy you followed you home. That nervous moment when you first felt him around. That birthday when he said you that he wants to kiss you and this will be his birthday gift. That emotional conflict where, one, you wanted to feel it and; second, you think it’s incorrect and then you finally let go. That break-up that simply broke you down, and you see darkness all around. And finally the man in your life, he come and hold your hand for your life with love so much, you always could imagine.

 

The people that you have lost in the way, those who will not come back, and have never aged after you saw them last, brings tears to eyes. Loss is a part of life. That tear we shed for the people who left us, in the darkness of night and the pain that pierces the heart is uncomprehending. These are losses that cannot be replaced and when we are back and go to the place from where it all started, we still feel their presence.

 

There are time when you think, enough of all, I will leave everything and go back. You pack your bags, take your belongings, and open the door, and you hear a voice from behind – ‘’ Papa, I need you besides me, I cannot sleep without you,’’, you turn back and look at your child. You lift her in your arms and return. You life is no more yours, you now live for them. As far as Karma goes, it repeats itself- ‘’ You had your life and you have your past past, now, you will create memories for these little one’s, and long after you are gone, they will always cherish you in their memories, and live in the world on the foundation and principles that you have laid for him.